By: Dr. Spence Pentland (Vancouver Fertility Acupuncturist)
When a man receives a diagnosis that his sperm is not able to get his wife pregnant, a state similar to shock may ensue. This seems to manifest as a type of post traumatic stress disorder. The man may then go through some, or all of the following ‘D.E.E.P.’ mental, emotional, and physical stages;
Denial: ‘not me!’, numbness, depression [*this exacerbates the stagnation of Qi].
Emotional: ‘why me?’ anger, hypersensitive, over-reactive, sad, withdrawal, poor mental function, *humiliation, shame, isolation, ‘is anyone else going through this?’ [*the Liver and Heart share this load].
Ego: central to being a man is the role of keeping the special woman in their life happy and protected. Being the ‘provider’ is also fundamental. Some men feel so inadequate with their inability to provide a child that some may even push for divorce.
Physical: damaged pride & shame are a breeding ground for sexual dysfunction, along with a wide array of physiological signs and symptoms (from insomnia to poor digestion, headaches to back pain).
It should also be noted that when a couple decides to go through A.R.T. (artificial reproductive techniques) many invasive procedures and medications are administered to the woman. This can affect the ‘protector’ aspect of a man, breeding fear for her health, and guilt towards being powerless to keep his wife out of harms way.
Chinese medicine and acupuncture, diet and lifestyle changes, proper supplementation, Qigong, education, and proper counsel to regarding the D.E.E.P. implications of male infertility, will restore confidence, and produce profound effects that show not only on a semen analysis, but also in the everyday wellness of the man and his relationship with his wife.
[*] denotes Traditional Chinese Medicine theory
Dr. Spence Pentland is a board licensed Doctor of Traditional Chinese Medicine, and certified Fellow of the American Board of Oriental Reproductive Medicine. Since 2004 Spence has focused exclusively on the treatment of reproductive disorders in both men and women in Vancouver Canada. To book an appointment or for a free 15 minute phone consultation visit DrSpencePentland.com (Vancouver fertility acupuncture). He and his wife are also ‘bringing sexy back to baby-making’ with their new line of ‘fertility friendly’ men’s underwear!